Staying Conscientious

While considering those in our country currently affected by floods, fires, pandemics, and other natural disasters; I decided to look for resources available to people who are coping with traumatic events. There continues to be a plethora of information available, particularly through the SAMHSA.gov and the U.S Department of Health and Human Services.  There is also a disaster distress hotline for survivors of natural disasters to access help and resources. That number is: 1-800-985-5990; TTY: 1-800-846-8517.  I have to honestly, say, that those I know who have called certain help lines in times of need have mixed results.  

Our first line of assistance, therefore, continues to be our communities and families. We are the ones who will notice if those close to us are suffering and failing to cope.  Noticing that someone is behaving differently in the following ways, could be a sign to reach out to them and offer assistance: an increase or decrease in energy levels, an increase in using alcohol or drugs, frequent irritability or angry outbursts, trouble relaxing or sleeping, crying frequently, excessively worrying, wanting to be alone much of the time, blaming others for everything, having difficulty communicating or listening, increased physical pain such as headaches, having difficulty giving or accepting help, and a loss of the ability to have fun or feel pleasure in activities.

These are all signs of stress and signals that an individual is struggling to “get back to normal”.  We can assist our loved ones through talking to them about informing their health care providers of these struggles.  We can also be good listeners ourselves and offer support in others ways that are appropriate. Remember that if someone talks about suicide or harming themselves or others, it is important to get help for that person as soon as possible.  Call a suicide or mental health hotline and try not to leave them alone. The suicide prevention Hotline number is: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). The Mendocino County Mental Health Crisis Line number is: 1-855-838-0404. Given the 'mixed nature' of help-line experiences, it is a good idea to stay with the person or check back in.  Avoid the assumption that they got the help they needed, just because you gave them a phone number.

After a traumatic life event, we will generally notice changes in our own thoughts and emotions. In many situations, we must be proactive in our own self-care, and we have the inner tools to guide us. It is common to feel anxious, depressed, guilty, angry, overwhelmed, or even heroic and invulnerable. Confusion, memory problems, and difficulty making decisions and concentrating are also common experiences after traumatic events. Seeking help is acceptable and recommended at any time, and never does this mean you are shameful or weak. If there are obstacles such as money or time, try calling a support group or a sliding scale clinic therapist; there may be resources you are not aware of.

​Other sources of help include connecting with friends, family and other survivors. Staying with a routine (as best as possible) is highly recommended. Staying aware of self-care, such as eating and sleep is primary and we can assist one another in this goal. If there are children involved, talk to them about what is happening and let them know that they will be OK. Knowing we are not alone is key to healing and reorienting to our inner coping and strength. 

​We are all affected, currently, but such stressors and no one has been unscathed by recent world events.  We must remember to be gentle with one another, and that kindness may have more effect than we could ever know.  We often do not know what our friends are going through, much less the stranger next to us.  Thanks for reading, and feel free to comment and share this blog link with your people! Hope you have a trauma informed week.

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